The problem with most leadership programs, this and other studies have concluded, is that they are focused more on concepts than context, principles than practices, more on reading experts than reflecting on themselves, and, mostly, more on learning about leading than actually doing the work of bringing organizational change. They are exactly the kind of environment that religious leaders who have a tutored capacity for study and love for theological discussion and historical details thrive.

Honestly, it can sound pretty sad and to start the awkward “do you want to be my friend conversation?” is so humbling. And yet we need it. Our friends are our anvil as we are forged in leadership.

I don’t doubt I can learn to lead change, Tod. I wonder if I can survive it." Senior pastor of a large church…